Temple Baptist Church - 10-23-2013
Colossians 3:18
Introduction:
A. It is to be carefully observed that Paul, when dealing with the home, speaks to you ladies first! As goes the home, so goes the church and nation. As goes the woman of the home, so goes the home, the church, and the nation! I cannot over emphasize the importance of your role in the home.
B. Let me clarify some things before I get “hit with a tomato!”
1. The woman is not inferior to her husband. Most Valedictorians are girls.
2. The woman is not inferior spiritually. There are no second class children in God’s family! Parents love their daughters as much as they love their sons.
3. The woman is not inferior in the local church. If it were not for the ladies of our church, we would get little done!
C. God, in His infinite wisdom, made the woman for a specific purpose and equipped her for that special task. Everything in nature is ordered and the home and local church are not exempt.
1 Corinthians 11:8-9 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. (9) Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
D. God has much to say about the woman who is not what God intended for her to be.
Proverbs 12:4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
Proverbs 27:15-16 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. (16) Whosoever hideth her hideth the wind, and the ointment of his right hand, which bewrayeth itself.
Proverbs 19:13 A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
Proverbs 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Proverbs 25:24 It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.
Proverbs 27:15-16 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. (16) Whosoever hideth her hideth the wind, and the ointment of his right hand, which bewrayeth itself.
E. These verses go against the grain to the modern model of womanhood. Today’s girls are taught to be self-sufficient and independent when God intended them to be the exact opposite. Today’s women are brash, competitive, and unashamed. Not much makes today’s woman blush or drop her eyes. The woman of today is nothing like what God intended when He created Eve. What I will say now will possibly make someone angry, but it needs to be said.
1. She was not intended to be career orientated or in the work force. Today’s woman has established herself in the work force and the home is forever changed. Ask your daughter what she wants to be when she grows up!
2. She was not intended to be independent. Today’s woman is self-sufficient and can make it without the man.
3. She was not intended to be masculine in her deportment. Today’s woman is tough instead of soft, mannish instead of feminine.
4. She was not intended to be either brash or bold. Today’s woman will not drop her eyes and can be as crude as any man.
5. She was not intended to be in competition with the man. Today’s woman wants to excel in business and sports.
6. She was not intended to be a sex object for the lustful eyes of other men. Today’s woman dresses and carries herself in order to attract man’s eyes. She has little morality, restraint, or purity.
7. She was made for Adam! She was made to be his helpmeet; she was made to complete his life; she was made to fulfill his desires; she was made specifically to love him, bear and love her children, and to guide the home! Period! Nothing more and nothing less! When the woman is what God intended she is the greatest asset and blessing (outside of Christ) that the world will ever know.
F. What I am giving you ladies tonight is from God’s word. I am not a chauvinist and neither is God. God made you both special and specifically for a purpose. That purpose was to complete the man, not to compete with him!
1. Submission is a Grace: its foundation is found in your obedience to Christ.
2. Submission is a Gift: its motivation is found in your love for your mate.
G. Submission has to do with Order, not with Value. Submission means obedience. Remember the wedding vows? Obey! Why the command. Because you ladies are as strong willed as us men! Submission has to do with Grace. When speaking of God’s grace, I often say that grace means that we do not deserve it. Men, we do not deserve our good wives! That makes me thankful. I thank the Lord for my wife and a wife that is submissive. Not beat down and not looked down upon. I value my wife and try to put her upon a pedestal in our home.
1. Submission Is A Woman’s Duty – It takes a Lot of Love for God! Ecclesiastes 12:13 Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.
Though submission through “duty” may not be the best scenario, it is still a command of God and should be obeyed. Ladies, calling your husband “lord” is the will of God in your life. Submission produces two things: Obedience to God’s Word and Trust in His Providence. Proverbs 3:5-6 become a reality in the life of the submissive woman as God protects her as she obeys His command.
2. Submission Should Be A Woman’s Desire – It takes a Lot of Grace! Genesis 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
It takes a lot of ‘grace” in order to have a proper home. Biblical grace is defines as “the divine influence upon the heart, and its reflection in the life of the believer.” God gives grace where He guides and His grace is abundant and all sufficient. BUT, submission should be much more than just duty. Submission should be accompanied with desire. The Lord told Eve that her desire was to be toward her husband. Lady, if you have a good man who loves you, provides for you, protects you, and is faithful to you—you are indeed blessed and loving him should not be a chore. Our homes, unfortunately, have been “hollywoodized” instead of “biblicized!” The elder women are to teach the younger women to love their husbands (Titus 2:4). If you love your husband, then biblical obedience will not be a real problem. No, he is not perfect; no, he is not always right; but if you will leave those two faults up to God to work out, you will be a happy lady.
3. Submission Will Be Her Delight – It will bring a Lot of Glory! Proverbs 31:28-31 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. (29) Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. (30) Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. (31) Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
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